First of I am not racist in any sort of way. Some say that I am racist towards Caucasian men, seeing that I am not attracted to them. This is wrong mostly because I never said I was not attracted to white men, its just that very very very few I am. My overwhelming preference is for Asian men. At the ripe old age of 27, many can't see that I am a "rice queen", as the traditional meaning is an older i.e. 20 or more years older than the Asian they are dating. In fact the man I am seeing is 22, younger than me yes, but not the only Asian I have dated. They have been older than I, younger, or around the same age. I don't discriminate based about age, but rather maturity,
The stereotypical definition of Rice Queen is a Caucasian "top" that wants a submissive Asian "bottom". The Caucasian may in some circumstances see the Asian as being "beneath" him, or that of a "subservient". Now of course, this is not each one of us out there. A website I recently came across, named "threeasianfags" stated the different types of Rice Queens, ranging from the previous explanation, to the complete opposite. Some Rice Queens may take advantage of their role. Many times the Potato Queen, or an Asian "boy" who likes white men, believes that being subservient to a white man will bring them something great. As in their culture, it can me jumping the social ladder. A young Asian boy may come to the US and seek out a wealthy doctor or lawyer, who in turns takes advantage of a Potato Queens desires. Now this is not always the case of course. Many times, the white man is in the opposite role, whereas he may seek out a wealthy Asian who just happens to prefer a Caucasian man. And these two scenarios are not always the complete truth. This is though, where the stereotype came from.
There is another type of Rice Queen that I will discuss now. A Caucasian man who does prefer an Asian man, but he does not have any ulterior motives in mind. He admires the physical characteristics of an Asian man. Usually the first part of attraction, as we cannot know a persons personality by the outside. In my own opinion, my attraction lies not just physical but emotional as well. Physically Asians, although not all, tend to be shorter and smaller. Typically darker eyes and darker hair. Almond shaped eyes, versus a Caucasians "rounder" eyes. Smoother, as in body hair-wise. These are what I find extremely attractive in a man. As far as emotionally, I find Asian men are much more Sensual and Passionate than Caucasian men. Now this is just an opinion, its not a fact of life. Its what I think. So my role as a Rice Queen is quite different than most. I will treat my man as equal in all respects. I don't want to be with an Asian guy because he will be submissive or dominant. Nor do I want him to worship me because I'm the "white man". I want to with someone because I enjoy being around them. I enjoy their company etc. I am a Rice Queen strictly because I am physically attracted to Asian men. Soley that.
So if anyone out there thinks that I have different intentions than just being with someone for who they are, they are mistaken. If they think that I am racist, then think that, but just know, that I know that I am not one. I just have a preference. A preference like we all have. Perhaps someone wants a guy that is taller, leaner, bigger, hairier, smarter, wiser, cuter, darker, lighter and all. WE all prefer something, and this is one thing that I will be for the rest of my life. And yeah I will admit it, I doubt I will ever date a guy who is not Asian, just how the cards are. Sorry if it offends, but it has taken me many years to get to where I am, and be comfortable with who I am for once.
And to my Rice boy out there, Billy.....I am so happy we met and that you are now a part of my life!
So I have finally decided to write a short novel/auto-biography. The basis will be the stigma of being a Rice Queen and the perception of Asian men in Western culture. I have grown quite fond of Asian men over the past several years, and in addition I have always loved Eastern culture. However, there is still a huge stigma following my preferences, as well as many other men in this world. Many of my friends are perfectly ok with whomever I choose to like. However, some wonder how I can like or even be attracted to an Asian man. And for good reason, those "friends" are not close to me. And I prefer to keep it that way.